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Underground Confidence Recovery

Shelley Treacher MA.BACP Accred

Core Recovery from Comfort Eating or Toxic Relationship

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Screw Willpower

What is willpower? Dear Reader, This is what willpower is, for me. If you listen to my media, you know I'm always saying that it's not because of your lack of willpower, that you can't stop eating. That's true! (Go back to your first emails if you want a recap of why you can't make yourself stop). In January, the world hits the refresh button and most people decide to give up something unhealthy, or start doing something positive. We get swept along with this vibe. So it's a small window of...

4 months ago • 1 min read
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Stress or Loneliness at Christmas DearReader, According to statistics, we eat 60% more than usual at Christmas. There are obvious triggers in our culture for this. But stress or loneliness can be the emotional triggers. The lead up to Christmas can be stressful. Trying to get everything done, hosting Christmas, visiting people you have difficult relationships with... This can all trigger off fatigue, a stress response or bad memories. So, it’s normal to feel frazzled at this time of year....

4 months ago • 1 min read
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How to Manage Your Eating and ENJOY Christmas Nurturing yourself through the pressures of Christmas Dear Reader, Part of the reason we eat so much at Christmas is that it's so easy to do it. Our whole culture makes it easy for us. However, there are many traditions and habits associated with Christmas that can create pressure and obligations. One way to control your eating during Christmas is to politely decline food that you don't really want This is the second of my Christmas podcasts,...

4 months ago • 1 min read

Hello Reader, Now's The Time! 10 Questions to Help You Get Control of Your Eating at Christmas What food habits and traditions am I stuck in? Can I let go of any? What prep and planning can I do? Make a plan for what to do around food at Christmas. E.g. Freeze leftovers. What are my resources around food? Make a list of your coping mechanisms. How am I brainwashing myself? "Go on then, it's Christmas" "I'll eat what I want now, I'll diet in January". How can I get support around family...

5 months ago • 1 min read

When Christmas Feels Lost: Compassion for Those Facing Grief & Dickensian Wisdom Dear Reader, Comfort eating is a challenge for all of us at Christmas. This is the major comfort eating season, where it's built into our traditions. We have so many habits built up around Christmas eating.Christmas can be a challenge for many of us ANYWAY. Traditions and habits can ALSO remind us of a lost relative or friend. The more we grow older, the more we're likely to associate Christmas with somebody that...

5 months ago • 1 min read
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One of the skills you need to be able to stop comfort eating You're probably scared to stop if you know you eat for comfort. You might be asking, "How will I cope with all the feelings that might come up?" It's important to ease off comfort eating slowly and safely, one step at a time. And to start building an internal sense of how to regulate how you feel. From working with 100s of clients, I know that learning to regulate your feelings is a powerful tool in giving up comfort eating....

5 months ago • 1 min read

Does the emotion matter? Dear Reader, This is why it's important to understand whether your overeating is triggered by something emotional. You might be wondering whether your eating really is caused by how you feel and whether it matters. Maybe you're thinking, "It's just a habit that I can't break!" But it's important to understand if you eat as a result of feeling bad about yourself, or stressed by something that happened to you. Because if you never find that out, you'll never start to...

5 months ago • 1 min read
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The 2 Biggest Weight Loss Mistakes I Made In today's podcast, I talk about the biggest mistakes I made when trying to stop comfort eating and lose weight. I now advise against being too hard on yourself and going on strict diets. It's really important to be kind to yourself and have self-compassion when trying to recover. It's also helpful to pay attention to your senses while eating and be aware of how you feel when you’re choosing what to eat. This is your reminder. Could you be kinder to...

5 months ago • 1 min read

"Chocolate is Good, But It's Not The Be-All & End-All!" Does eating make you happy? Typically, the comfort eaters that I see have lost touch with what makes them happy. Today, I talk about why and how to develop a practice of making your own happiness more of a focus. Here, I list 10 learnable things that can make us happy. I see time and time again how this completely transforms eating habits and lifestyles. We are more capable, more resilient, and at our best when we’re happy. So, we are...

6 months ago • 1 min read

Interesting facts you may not know about self-worth "I'm stupid,” “They don’t like me,” or “I'm bad at this” These kinds of thoughts happen to all of us on a daily basis, in the unconscious. Self-worth is the most common thing talked about in therapy. We all grapple with it. Often, what you’re dealing with here is the core belief that “I'm not good enough” or “I don’t belong.” We all have these beliefs and thoughts. There are lots of reasons for this. So, here I'm going to introduce you to...

6 months ago • 1 min read
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